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Spending time cleaning house is no fun. I actually am the kind of person who doesn’t mind it, but I know I’m the exception! If you hate to clean, stick around, I hope you will find this useful.
As my current situation is a stay at home mom, that’s what I know about. Cleaning your house is important for everyone, but I’m going to share with you why it’s especially important for those of us who are wives/moms.
I think we can help change this ideal that being a housewife/mom isn’t fulfilling. Everyone says it’s the hardest job on earth but how many of us actually feel like we’re doing enough?
I’m kinda tired of the “do your best and that’s good enough” mentality. I’ve noticed that moms support for each other usually is, “Dear Mom, you can’t do it all.”
When did we become satisfied with halfway through? Why are we allowing ourselves to be compared on social media? They aren’t you! I’m not saying you can be Superwoman and do it all. I’m not even saying your house should be white glove clean, but let’s at least give it our best shot instead of celebrating our mediocrity.
I found a post on Instagram that bothered me. (Notice how social media has a lot to do with this?) There were a lot of moms saying this one lady was their “hero” because she posted about telling her husband to pick up dinner because the kids pooped their pants on the way to soccer, some other crazy stuff happened, and she was just too tired to make dinner. We’ve all been there. Some of us don’t see anything wrong with staying there and essentially accepting that is just how we’re supposed to be nowadays.
You know those signs people buy and put in their house that says, “Excuse the mess, we live here.”? That’s what I mean! Maybe we can put more effort into actually not being embarrassed by how our homes look. Wouldn’t it be nice to enjoy compliments of how clean it is instead? Don’t you want to look around your home with satisfaction knowing you did that?
The first step is acknowledging your role in the household. It’s important! Even if you work and keep house, you still cannot just leave the housework to someone else. I can’t say that I think women should pass the work of raising kids, cooking, cleaning, etc. on to somebody else. Nor am I a feminist (can ya tell?).
God comes first, my husband is the head of the house and my children are being taught that the world doesn’t orbit around them.
I know I’m old-fashioned – to me, it’s a compliment!
Part of that old-time way of thinking is for us women to spend our time cleaning house. I know, so not what you wanted to hear! Honestly, give this a try and you may be surprised at how it changes your life. You may become unpopular on social media, but if that’s all you want out of life you probably wouldn’t be on this blog! I want to encourage you to find your bliss, it’s out there and I’m telling you – cleaning can be so rewarding!
I am a reformed non-cleaner
Don’t think I’m saying all this to show that I’m perfect or have always been this way. I’ve been married for 11 years and for about 8 years of that time, I did not clean like I should have. That’s why I want to share this with you, I don’t want to see you look back and regret not doing your best and thinking it was good enough.
I wouldn’t say that I didn’t clean. I got sucked into that popular way of thinking that cleaning isn’t important. Your kids are important, your relationships, time spent with family, that’s what’s important.
Okay, yes, those things do matter. Does that mean that when you have a baby, your house instantly is expected to be filthy because you are running on one hour of sleep? Sorry but, no. People told me – the sinks can be dirty, the floors not vacuumed, as long as you spend time loving on your babies all day – you’ve done what’s really important.
And I believed them. And I venture to say, you have believed them too.
I could have cleaned better. I didn’t want to. There’s a huge difference.
You can have babies, work, take care of your sanity and clean your house, all at the same time. Yes you can and the sooner we all start to think we can, we will.
Why cleaning is important
- First and foremost, your health! Dust and grime are just not healthy for you to be around. Add any pets to that and think of what it does to your body. We all know that pets have dander and if you have animals that use the bathroom indoors (like cats) that’s even worse. Save yourself the allergies and trips to the doctor and put a little time into tidying the house.
- There’s just no two ways around it, I believe it’s our job ladies! (I am on your side, trust me!) Men are just not naturally clean, maybe you have one that is, but I sure as heck don’t. And if Dad has a full time job, it just wouldn’t be fair to expect him to do the cooking or laundry after work. Maybe you work too but like I said earlier, you are still expected to do all the rest and work your job. If you can’t handle the load, you may need to look at prioritizing. Selling an extra car would be better than missing out on staying at home with your kids, if that’s where your heart lies.
- Cleaning actually equals less stress, which means you’re more happy! Isn’t that what we all want? If you clean on a regular basis and don’t let it pile up around you, it’s so much easier to deal with. You don’t need to slave away all day either. A quick routine of picking up the clutter, doing the dishes and making the bed are really all you need for a good starting place.
- It’s something our ancestors got “right”. Women today are much more career oriented and I think homemaking is sadly disappearing. If you want to stay home and find joy keeping a neat and tidy house, go for it! Don’t allow yourself to feel less worthy or important because you think it’s not a real job.
Don’t get it twisted
We are only capable of so much. I get that. I’m not saying you need to go to bed each night exhausted (but hey, your house is clean!).
I’m saying, find a balance that works and get rid of that mentality that the world is pushing on us that our kids are #1 and that’s all that matters. Life is so much more than focusing 100% of your energy on your kids all the time! And don’t you think they appreciate a clean house? Trust me, they do. Raising them in a messy home just sets them up for that kind of environment in their own homes when they grow up.
I ask you to be open to the possibility that you’ve been neglecting housework for some reason, thinking that it’s okay. You can free yourself of that guilt, once you see that you want to change things. The good news is, you can change it!
Ask your family to help out and do their part. No woman should be a maid (unless you get paid!). Kids and husbands need to clean up after themselves as much as possible and lend a hand so you’re not doing everything. I find in my own house, my energy encourages them to pitch in. If you don’t seem to care, they surely won’t!
I hope this inspires you to keep your house clean, the benefits you will see are amazing! I never thought it would be easy to keep a house as clean as I do now, but once I put it on the priority meter, it became second nature.
Happily I can say that I don’t cringe to think, “What if someone came over right now?” That feeling is great and I want you to experience it too!